Mom guilt, and how to avoid it.
What is mom guilt?
You ever just feel like what you are doing as a mom just isn't enough? Like you should be doing more, or that whatever you are doing is just not cutting it? Understand that you are not alone, and there are more moms than you may think who are experiencing this or once have. This feeling is known as mom guilt, a feeling in which you make yourself believe that you should be doing more, or even as bad as convincing yourself that you aren't a good mom.
New moms are more susceptible to mom guilt.
Mom guilt is something that is more noticeable in new moms. This is because being new to motherhood places all these different stressors and expectations on you. Being a new mom gives people the misconception that they can give their 'two cents', and being new to this whole motherhood thing can have you too intimated or even embarrassed to speak up for yourself.
Mom guilt comes from an unrealistic idea of the "perfect mom".
Really sit back and think, what is the perfect mom? Because I can say I'm a "perfect" mom to my children due to me altering how I interact and deal with them on the level that they need. That doesn't necessarily mean I'm perfect for your child. So this is where that mom guilt come in. We see how other moms are mothering or nurturing their child(ren), and compare to how we handle ours. This only leads to us feeling less than because the next mom may have the energy, time, and overall availability to take her kids to practice, or to the park, or even to do arts and crafts at home. But just because you don't, doesn't mean you are less than of a mother or that makes her a "perfect" mom. As long as your children are happy and enjoy time spent with you, that's all that matters.
Ways to overcome mom guilt
Have regular time to yourself
Put your phone down
Understand that it's okay to ask questions and help
Remember that some days will be better than others.
Find a good support system.
Mom guilt is something that all moms struggle with. Understand that just because your children may not be reaching the same milestones as the next, at the same time, does not mean that you are doing something wrong. All journeys through motherhood will not be the same, hence why here is no cut and paste option. We are all learning as we go.
Are there any things that you felt guilty about during your journey through motherhood? Comment below to help others who may be going through those same things understand that they are not alone and what you did to overcome them.